I’m young. My parents’ generation got married at my age. My mother was married at my age. I’m not even close to that. I get excited about new books and the next tattoo I’m going to get. I get excited when the guy I like texts me, goddammit. So the fact people my age –– especially classmates from high school –– are close to marriage really freaks me out. Here’s one of the results.
“Single” changes to “In a relationship.”
“Who is it?!?” 17 of her 1,042 friends type, and click “post.” “He’s a lucky guy!”
All 1,042 of you will know as soon as he logs in and changes his status as well. Which will be in, like, five minutes. Hold your horses. Half of you won’t even know him, anyway. Follow the link and creep. Half of you don’t even know her, anyway.
I scroll through my feed and laugh at the stupid couple-y messages written on friends’ pages. I did that once, but I know better now. I’m happier now.
“In a relationship” changes to “Engaged to.”
Fuck. Game changer.
Am I the one doing something wrong? Did I miss this memo? Should I be meeting someone I can see myself settling down with?
What does “settle down” mean? WHAT THE FUCK DOES “SETTLE DOWN” MEAN?
“We’re so happy for you!”
“What a beautiful couple!”
I have a Claddagh ring I switch back and forth on what seems like a monthly basis. Sometimes men want to date you, sometimes they don’t. Sometimes I want to date, sometimes I don’t. That’s college. That’s life. I’m not torn up about it.
“When’s the wedding?”
“Look at that ring!”
I sip from the Dollar Tree glass I filled with red wine from the box I’ve been working on all semester. I upload pictures from our agency’s trip to compete in New York City. I get tagged in pictures from our drunken escapades the weekend before.
I take another sip.
Last name changes (maiden name in parentheses).
One more sip. One more scroll through. One more click.
Then I’m back to applying for internships and scholarships, perfecting my résumé, designing the freshman newsletter, writing a story, setting up an interview, proofing students’ papers, (homework?), reading, writing blog posts, updating my digital portfolio, fiddling with my camera.
My 472 “friends” don’t need to know all my business.